[7.4.0] Cherry pick install_name and soname features (#23862)

This cherry picks 62dc3b5b and
0b0d9084 which allows setting
install_name and soname on shared libraries. No defaults changed here.

Fixes https://github.com/bazelbuild/bazel/issues/23842



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Co-authored-by: Fabian Meumertzheim <fabian@meumertzhe.im>