chore: bump node to v16.5.0 (main) (#30031)

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v16.4.2

* chore: update patches

* ci: run main and remote woa tests separately

* chore: bump node in DEPS to v16.5.0

* build: restore libplatform headers in distribution

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39288

* build: pass directory instead of list of files to js2c.py

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39069

* chore: various BoringSSL/OpenSSL upstreams

- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39136
- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39138
- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39054

* test: move debugger test case to parallel

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39300

* chore: fixup patch indices

* build: pass directory instead of list of files to js2c.py

https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39069



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